Questions (Not) to Ask if a Loved One Comes Out as Trans Over the Holidays
This article is adapted from NCTE’s “Questionable Questions about Gender Identity” guide.
For many people, the holidays are a time to reconnect with loved ones and let them know about school, recent vacations, or major life updates. Accordingly, some people use the holidays as an opportunity to come out as transgender.
If you’ve recently learned that a family member or friend is transgender and you don’t have many other transgender people in your life, you may be naturally curious about what it’s like to be transgender. Asking transgender people questions about their experiences can be a great way to learn more about what it means to be transgender. Like everyone else, however, some transgender people are open to answering just about anything, while others may not want to share intimate details about their lives.